5 Effective Ways to Deal With an Ex Still Contacts You

Jakarta – An Ex short for ex-partner or former romantic partner, refers to someone with whom an individual has previously been in a romantic or intimate relationship but is no longer involved with romantically.

Ex can play significant place in a person's life, as they often represent a chapter of one's past filled with memories, emotions, and experiences. 

Dealing with an ex who stills contact you can be challenging and emotionally taxing. It's important to establish boundaries and respond in a way that can help your well-being and peace of mind. Here are five tips on how to respond when your ex still contacts you:

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1. Be casual and polite to keep things friendly

Treating them like a friend helps keep things civil between you two. Try not to immediately dive into questions or beg them to get back together with you. Instead, reply to their message like you would anyone else. 

This can help foster a casual relationship with your ex, which is great if you want to be friends with them.

Maybe you can do this when you think there's nothing to talk about. You’re under no obligation to respond to your ex. If you’re still recovering from the breakup or you don’t want to get involved with them again, read their message and then delete it. 

It’s totally up to you whether or not you want to talk to your ex again, and ignoring them is a great way to keep them out of your life.

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Establishing boundaries is crucial when dealing with an ex who won't stop contacting you. Clearly communicate your boundaries to your ex, stating what is acceptable and what is not. 

As example, you can say, "I need some space to heal, so please do not contact me for the next few months."

Once you've set your boundaries, it's essential to maintain consistency in your responses. If you've asked for space, do not respond to their messages or calls during that time. 

Being consistent will help reinforce your boundaries and send a clear message about your intentions.

If your ex continues to contact you despite your boundaries, consider limiting the ways they can reach you. Block their number, unfollow or unfriend them on social media, and take steps to reduce opportunities for contact. This can help you create the physical and emotional space you need to heal.

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2. Ignore them if you aren’t ready to talk