8 Reasons Why Women Always Choose the Wrong Guy
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VIVA – Have you ever been in a phase of questioning yourself why your relationship with your partner is not as smooth as you want it to be? In fact, many of us, especially women, always question ourselves 'why do I always choose the wrong man?'.
Choosing a partner is not as easy as when we look for clothes. Feeling suitable at the beginning because it is considered attractive, but it turns out not too. If you often experience this, it might be worth starting to find out what's wrong.
Well, there are several reasons why women always choose the wrong partner, here are the reviews, as quoted from the lovepanky site.
Alpha male syndrome means that a woman just wants to be with a gentleman, even if he is the rough one. He even treats her badly or does harassment to her.
One thing that women should know is, the alpha male means they are usually strong-willed, stubborn, and successful. The majority of them tend to be intimidated and threatened by women who are their equals. So, be careful with this type.
2. Daddy Issues
Daddy issues also can be a reason why you always fall for men who treat you poorly. Many said that a girl’s father is her first exposure to the wide, world of men. So, if the father is a great role model, chances are his daughter will fall in love with a great guy. If he’s terrible, there’s a chance she will inherently be drawn to men who exhibit his terrible traits.
Well, look back on your relationship with your father, and try to figure out whether he displayed good or bad traits.
3. Women Always Think They Can Change a Man
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You have to stop believing that you can ever change a man. To be honest, people can change if they want. If he’s a jerk, he always acts like a jerk. No matter what you do, it won’t change.
In other cases, if someone wants to change for you, they will. Also, you don’t have to force them to change. It is not your job.
4. Don’t Have Great Self-Esteem
You may be drawn to men who treat you poorly because you lack self-esteem. Women of all shapes, ages, and colors are drawn to men with confidence. And guess what? Most of the jerks out there have plenty of confidence. They think they’re all that and, more often than not, will belittle you to lift themselves even higher.
So, start by changing the way you look on the outside. Work out, eat right, get your nails done, and do whatever else you need to do to feel pretty and amazing. The inside will follow suit once you start looking good on the outside.
5. Don’t Want to be Alone
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Women are usually scared to be alone and don’t know how to be alone. Sometimes, loneliness makes women choose the wrong guy.
You don't have any type of support to fall back on, so he's all you have. But are you all she has too? Probably not. So, before you enter any relationship, you should learn how to be happy alone.
6. You Think Nice Guys are Boring
Many girls like bad boys because books and movies tend to glorify them. But keep in mind that books and movies also glorify abuse and toxic relationships, so they’re not exactly reliable sources. But the truth is: Love doesn’t have to hurt. You can be in love and be happy.
Just because a guy is respectful and treats you well doesn’t mean he’s boring. Don’t worry if you don’t feel those butterflies when you’re with him. It’s because he makes you feel comfortable and safe.
Butterflies and roller coasters aren’t always a good thing. They can also mean you’re anxious. It’s your gut telling you something is wrong. And that’s what you get for choosing the wrong guy. They’ll never give you peace.
7. Just Go for Looks
When it comes to finding a boyfriend, there's nothing wrong with looking for a hot guy. But looks only matter if they have a good personality as well.
Many conventionally attractive people don't need to care about their personalities. People will like them and give them attention.
Hot guys with zero or bad personalities are only good for sex. If you can't hold a conversation with them, or if they're rude and annoying, it doesn't matter what they look like. They are not worthy of you.
8. “We Accept the Love We Think We Deserve”
Bill said this to Charlie in The Perks of Being a Wallflower. So, what does this mean? It means that the love you choose reflects who you think you are as a person.
So, you may get to have two guys wanting to date you. You may know which one is bad and which is good, but you end up choosing the wrong guy anyway. Deep down, you think you don’t deserve the good one.
You think if you set your expectations too high, you’ll fail or screw things up. That’s probably why you choose the wrong guy.
This all comes down to your insecurities. So, you need to work on your confidence and take care of yourself mentally and physically. Think of the type of woman you admire and try to be her. Soon, you’ll attract a decent man into your life, and this time, you’ll be confident enough to say yes to him.
